Thursday, November 25, 2010

Make a Move and Now!

Aggressive or Competitive or Complacent - which is better?

As I write this article, there is only one thing that comes to my mind - Being at peace with yourself! Nah... certainly this is some kind of gyan I am trying to sell to anyone!

Of late, I came across a lot of people, with different kinds of worries, problems - most of them work related. As I question more and more into their problems, I saw only one root - Comparison!

It is like 'Why not I get a mother-in-law like her?, 'Why not I get a manager like him', or 'my age - but earning twice as me', 'saree exactly of the same design and color would be awesome' There is nothing wrong with it! Absolutely nothing!

Even my 3 year old is like that. 'Mom, I want the same ear ring as yours ;-)' She feels mine is better!

Money, success, position, health, better balanced family life - I think we got to understand one comes at a cost of another... How mean is our society or nature or whatever is responsible? Why not everyone have everything? Well, it is a useless question and I call it so, because I don't have an answer! :P

Now coming back to Comparison - whomever we compare with, one may have say more money, but not health... another one may have position, but not money etc etc... Most of us comfortably ignore what it has taken for a person to get where they are!

Oh yes! I hear you 'I know all of this and more' For those impatient folks, here comes the conclusion - If you think you don't have something may it be a better job, role, career, health or personal life (sorry, I don't include better spouses here - got to live with them anyway, because they have become necessary evils in our lives - Again there are exceptions and I hope exceptions are in great number :) :)), just move your ASS!!!!!

I mean MAKE A MOVE! Look for a better healthy diet, exercise, talk to your manager for a better role, look for a job change, see how you can spend quality time with your family, - To act on whatever you see is missing in your life! ACT NOW!!

Is the problem solved? not really... "I also act on my shortcomings, but my peer or neighbour is also acting fast and he also progresses at the same pace!" "What to do now? When will I become he or she?"

I am not writing anymore... Well, if I read this to my little "logic" princess at home, she will say, 'Ma, don't compare ma! I have mine, they have theirs' :)

Good luck folks!


Bharathi said...

Hi Abi,

The blog is nice. Comparing is very common which I also do not like. Family, individuals or talents cannot be compared since each and everything is unique.

One more thing - even managers compare people within the department workwise - which also I feel is bad becoz everybody has their own talent in work expertise.
It can be used more when it is not compared with workload and stretching time etc.

Thanks and have a nice day,

Bye, Yours affectionately, Bharathi.R

jazzy_rampras said...

this is an excellent article..:-)))))
all my sweat i spent on my sister wasnt a waste at all.. :D :D :D

being content with wat u have is very simple..but ppl make it look very difficult..

u can compare urself only to urself when it comes to ur talent or skills..and u can look for inspiration from matching urself with others..not out of jealousy tho..

everyone is unique??
wonder which context she meant this..

Abi said...

@Bharathi: Thanks for your comments. Comparisons done by Manager are part of the process. They are forced to rank one over the other. But how they do, what parameters are taken are totally dependent on the manager's personality. Being a manager, doing appraisal for over 2 years, I felt difficult to say what one person had more than another. So, simply we say, as an organization policy, 'don't compare' to our fellow associates. :P

This article focuses on the comparison we do on ourselves with others, which never left us in peace. I want to focus on the action and stop comparison. This may leave us in peace :)

@Jazzy: Bro, well said da!

Lissy said...

If you compare yourself or your situation to someone else´s you end up in the victim´s role...which might be useful to some people cause they give away the responsibility for themselves to external factors, situations, people... so they don´t have to think for themselves and take action...
Still we are all creating our reality...and instead of putting energy into comparison and self pity we can decide once and for all to step out of the victim´s role and take responsibility for ourselves in order to create the world the way we want it to be! Like you say sister: MAKE A MOVE! ACT NOW! ;)